A few weeks back, I wrote a post about how – like it or not – we’re heavily influenced by the people we surround ourselves with.
I believe that it’s up to each of us to consciously create our tribe. Creating your tribe is all about seeking out like-minded, positive people, on purpose. Intentionally making friendships where you truly feel connected, seen and accepted for who you are.
So how do you actually find your tribe?
1.Set the intention.
Sit down for a few minutes with your journal and do some visioning. Give yourself some time to really consider what types of people you would like to attract:
- What are you looking for in new friends?
- How do you want to feel when you’re around them?
- What shared interests do you desire to have with your tribe?
- Are there other important qualities you’d like them to have?
Posing these questions to yourself may also bring up negative things and specific qualities you are not looking for. Although you don’t want this to be the focus of the exercise, note down the things you don’t want to attract on your list as well.
2. Call them in.
Once you’ve set your intention, take a look around the area where you live:
- What events are going on that you would enjoy going to?
- Where might people who share your interests be hanging out?
- What’s something you loved doing as a kid that you may have forgotten about?
- What’s one thing you’ve been dying to try but haven’t gotten up the nerve?
Here’s another tip: If you’re coming up short on fun things to do, why not create your own fun? Here are two ideas:
- Think about your current friends. Focus on the ones you really resonate with. Pick one or two to set up a dinner or coffee date with. Ask them to invite two of their closest friends.
- Create your own group. Love rock climbing or reading classic fiction or baking souffles? Start your own group around this interest on meetup.com. You never know who you might meet!
3. Be open.
The thing about creating your tribe is this: it’s very likely that people will show up differently than you expect. Because let’s face it, the universe works in unexpected ways.
Here’s an example: You might be a 30-something single and be surprised to find a fun loving couple in their late 50’s who you just love exploring local farm-to-table restaurants with. Or maybe one day out of the clear blue, you end up in a really interesting conversation with the guy who runs on the treadmill next to you every morning at the gym. Who knew?
So set your intention, but at the same time be open to what shows up. The key is to meet people that you have a true connection and common interests with.
4. Let it go.
After you have gone through the exercises above, it’s time to surrender. Remember to have fun! Not everyone you meet will result in a life long friend, at that’s ok. You may have a great conversation with someone out at a networking event and never see them again – and that’s ok. It’s all part of the journey of setting your intention and then enjoying the process, and allowing the universe to guide you.