Happy New Year, everyone! It’s hard to believe another year has passed. Did this year turn out as you’d hoped? I couldn’t ever have imagined how amazing this year would be for me. I knew it would be a big, transformational time but not to the extent that it was.
In years past when the new year rolled around, my focus was always on what was wrong in my life and how to fix it. I focused on what I didn’t have or didn’t accomplish or was unhappy about. And then I would set my goals and resolutions for the year ahead from that place of lack and feeling bad about myself. And guess what? I stayed in the wanting and lack place and usually lost steam by the middle of January. Because let’s be honest…how motivating can it be to make positive shifts when you feel terrible about yourself? Can you relate to this?
But this year was different. I actually took the time to reflect on my year of accomplishments, my wins and magical moments. I acknowledged my growth. The hard work. The leaps of faith into the unknown. The lives I’ve helped to transform. And I allowed myself to get into gratitude and feel in awe of the past year, and my life in general. And from this place of fullness and love, I looked ahead and made my plans for 2015. I’ll tell you more about that in next week’s newsletter…stay tuned… 🙂
But until then, I want to share some of the things I learned this past year:
1. Getting out of my comfort zone completely changed how I view myself and my life.
I’ll be talking a lot more about this concept next year, but man oh man did this ring true for me in 2014. I left for Paris with the full intention that I would come home in December, pack up my life in Chicago and move back to Paris permanently after the new year. I was SO SICK of my life in Chicago. I was bored. Beyond belief bored. And I blamed it all on where I was and not who I was or how I was showing up. But what ended up happening was that I came home with a whole new perspective on Chicago. Like I’m seeing it with brand new adoring eyes. In the few weeks since I’ve been home, I’ve had the most fun and am totally engaged and excited to live here again. This is not to say I still don’t crave travel and adventure outside of Chicago, but I’m also enjoying the adventure of this city again!
2. Putting yourself first ends up helping everyone around you.
I learned how to lovingly say no this year. From a place of fullness and grace. I used to think I had to be everything to everyone. That I needed to sacrifice who I was and what I needed to be a good friend, girlfriend, family member, healer, etc. This caused me to feel exhausted, unsupported and resentful. But what I learned this year is that when I put myself first and take care of and support myself, I’m able to fully show up and be present for my loved ones, patients and clients.
3. When you hone in on your deep desires…the money, resources and situations come in to make it happen!
I was familiar with this concept but never really believed it because I had never experienced it. But what I learned was what I thought were my desires were really just these vague ideas that I wasn’t really all that excited about. When I did the work to really figure out and get clear on my deep desires, this concept became my reality. Having a clear picture and of my desires is how my adventure in Paris came to fruition. And now, honing in on my desires comes is coming even easier to me…just wait for what I have planned for 2015!
4. It’s ok to be visible.
This was a big one for me this year. Becoming present and putting myself out there on social media and writing a newsletter was my worst nightmare. I was so scared of being seen as too much or not enough. I was afraid of being criticized for not knowing enough or being smart enough. I feared being judged as a self-help weirdo or some kind of a witch 🙂 But I got into reality about my knowledge, my worth and my purpose of helping others and I stopped worrying about what others thought and I just did it. Hitting post on my first message was terrifying, but it’s been a beautiful journey ever since. And I thank you all for being a part of the journey!
5. When you follow your purpose, you can have the most breathtaking year of your life.
This one definitely builds from 4. When I finally just got out of my own way, I was able to create what I wanted. When I got out of the fear and got honest about what my purpose was, I just went for it. While I know my understanding of my purpose will continue to evolve and deepen, my knowing today is that my purpose is to be a healer and to help women transform and deeply know and embody their self-worth. And once I took my own teaching, 2014 happened. The most breathtaking year of my life!
I encourage all of you to take an hour or two this week to reflect on the last year. What were your wins, your accomplishments and magical moments. All of mine weren’t as profound as what I’ve shared. One of my magical moments was finding the perfect pair of suede boots that make every outfit better! So think of the big and small. Look through your journal, your calendar, text messages, social media, sent emails or whatever will spark your memory. And bask in the gratitude of what 2014 held for you!
See you in 2015!