This week we’re talking about reacting to life vs. creating the life you desire. Big difference, right? Living in reaction is about flying by the seat of your pants, HOPING that success and happiness will cross your path. It’s about just letting life to happen TO you, instead of creating the life that is mind-blowingly awesome. The life that is meant just for you!
The thing is, when we live in reaction, we tend to live in the future – it’s a place of “I’ll be happy when.”
On the flip-side, creating your life is about being present in the current moment and getting clarity on what kind of life you desire. It’s all about mapping out what you crave and how your life will look when these desires have manifested. And then, moving through your life with this new lens – saying yes or no based on what aligns with your desires.
There’s no doubt about it, creating your life intentionally takes courage and trust in yourself, but it also allows for a much greater level of happiness! You get to experience more joy not only when your desires become reality, but also along the way. Because the “along the way” is most of life, right? We’re always on our way to something and if we wait to feel joy and happiness until we get there, we miss out on most of life.
And man o’ man did I hang out in the place of letting life happen for way too long. Let me give you a couple examples from my own life:
- I dated guys based on who I happened to meet along the way. Where there was mutual attraction, I’d then make myself “fit” with them.
A better option: Get to know myself, my needs and my desires for a relationship. And then love and trust myself enough to know when a man was a good fit and worthy of me, and when to walk away when he wasn’t.
- When looking for jobs I would see what career paths were available, and then from there look at the current job openings, and pick what was appealed to me.
A better option: Get clear on my passions, my talents, my gifts and what I want to contribute on a daily basis in the world. And then, find a job that aligns. This could look like researching companies that align with your values and light you up, and then reaching out to them – even if they don’t have a current job opening. Or maybe even starting your own business.
And, let me add that this doesn’t mean that you have to be earning your living based on your hobbies. For example, if you love video games, it doesn’t mean you have to find a job that involves video games. Maybe you also love numbers and get jazzed about accounting, great! Get clear on what you desire from an accounting job and then play video games as your hobby!
What is your next goal? What are you going after? Spend some time and get clear on what you really desire:
- What is your why for wanting this goal?
- What does this goal to look like once you’ve achieved it?
- What are the characteristics of this person, thing or situation that are really important to you?
- What are your non-negotiables?
- How does this goal feel – both while you’re working towards it and once you’ve achieved it?
Once you have asked yourself these questions, set the intention to achieve your goal, but in a whole new way. Focus on all of your new found clarity, and commit to finding joy as you create it. And then, go get it!