One of my favorite songs is by Colin Hay and it’s called “Waiting for my Real Life to Begin”. (You can listen here.) I love how well he captures this idea, that until we have everything we “think” we need to be happy, our lives are really just in a holding pattern. And that when we actually get all these things…the job, relationship, body….that will be our real life.
I have a question for you…are you living in the place of “I’ll be happy when?”
You know the place…I’ll be happy when I get the job. You get the job and you come to realize it’s not really what you wanted. So you think, I’ll be happy when I get the promotion. And again, you get the promotion and you’re still not happy. So you think well maybe it’s because I’m single, and I’ll be happy when I meet my partner, get married, have the baby…and it ends up going on and on and on.
Can you relate?
While it’s necessary for us to get clear on our desires and to set goals to be successful, if we’re constantly looking for happiness in the next thing, we never truly experience the happiness that exists right here in the moment. The happiness we seek is always off in the future. Just out of reach.
But here’s the newsflash: life is actually right here in the present moment! That’s it. Right now is all we have. The reality is, if we’re constantly living for the future, instead of in the now, we’re not really living are we?
So when will you finally say enough?
This week I have the perfect exercise to help you balance focusing on your goals with being present each day.
In love and freedom,
Each day, schedule a little time where you can focus on the next three months of your life. What are your goals? What do you desire? Pick anywhere from 1-3 goals/desires to work towards and visualize what it will feel like to achieve these goals. In your mind’s eye, see yourself accomplishing these desires and give yourself the experience of really tapping into the feelings you’re going after.
For the other 23 hours and 50 minutes of your day, make a commitment to live your life fully, presently, and in the moment. Look for all the good in your life. Stay present to little things that light you up and make you happy. Focus on what you DO have right now. Don’t wait. Make happiness a daily way of life…not this thing that will happen in the future.
And here’s the bonus: when you live your life appreciating the present, you’ll be amazed at how much easier it is to make your goals and desires a reality.