Here’s one thing I know for sure: you can’t move on to what is next until you let go of what’s dragging you down. When you have a stranglehold on things in your life, you block your own natural flow. And in this place, you become disconnected from the real you. I’ve seen it over and over with my clients – many of them get stuck in this place.
We tend to ruminate over things from the past. Mistakes we have made, grief over losses, people who hurt us or maybe even people we have hurt.
We also cling to things that we have in our lives now, that we know deep down, no longer serve us. It may be a job that we’ve outgrown, a closet full of clothes we never wear, or a mediocre relationship. But, we keep them around because we’re scared of what might happen if we give them up.
So what does it mean to let go? Letting go is all about being willing release, to forgive, and to make real changes. And the best part? It’s very much about reconnecting to your power.
Forgiveness is huge part of letting go – whether it’s absolving yourself or someone else. We have to remember that forgiving others does not mean that we are saying what they did is ok. What we are doing is letting go of the negative thoughts and feelings surrounding the situation, for our own benefit. Because the reality is that holding on to negative feelings only hurts us and keeps us in a low vibration.
Here’s the tricky thing about letting go: we have to be truly willing to release. This may seem obvious, but for some it can be kind of cloudy. You may think you are willing, but are you really? The danger is that grasping to what we really need to release, can become the perfect excuse not to live our lives to the fullest. We can keep blaming other people, not have to take any risks, and essentially stay stuck.
The coolest thing about letting go is it opens up space for the new. Becoming open and unattached is key in this process. When we are attached and in a state of grasping, we immediately shut out other possibilities. Instead, we can choose to have faith and to trust in the universe. We can let go of certainty and of our rigid view of how we think things should happen.
There’s no question, deciding to let go is brave, and you may not want to go through it alone. Depending on the circumstances, you may want to find a coach or mentor to help you through. So decide what makes sense for you!
Here are some tips below to get you started:
- What in your life are you now willing to let go of? Is there someone you need to forgive? Is there a thought you cling to or that story that you’ve been telling that you can now release?
- What’s the payoff been for allowing yourself to cling to this thing? Identify what you have been “getting” by hanging on. (Not having to face your fear, making excuses, blaming others, staying in your comfort zone, etc.)
- And finally, what are you now making space for in your life? You’ll be amazed at the sense of freedom you’ll feel when you finally release the old and make way for the new.