Happy Valentine’s Day!
Ok, so I know there are always the naysayers that claim this is a “Hallmark Holiday” or that it ends up making single people feel bad about themselves or whatever negative thing people come up with. But, I like Valentine’s Day for the simplicity of what this holiday represents….LOVE. And I say we take it a step further as a community and get into some serious SELF-love this year! You with me?!
In a relationship? Single? This applies to you! If you’re in a relationship, self-love will only deepen your love with your partner. And, if you’re single, it will make it that much easier to meet your partner…when you love yourself you are more open and available to receiving love from another person, which makes you that much more attractive.
Self-love isn’t a new topic for us. You can go back and read this post for more ways to engage in self-love. Today, I want to focus on feeling supported as an act of self-love.
Let me explain. In order to feel love on a deep level, it needs to come from a place of something you want, not something you need. When you need someone else’s love to make you feel good or make you feel whole and complete, it’s never going to be enough and you’re always going to be left wanting more. But, when you fill yourself up and come to a relationship whole and complete, you’re better able to give from a genuine place, not needing anything in return because you already have all the love you need from within. And, what ends up happening is you attract a partner who is also whole and complete and also comes to the relationship to give. This creates a beautiful cycle of giving and receiving from a true place of desire, and is the basis for a healthy relationship.
One of the ways to feel whole and complete is to feel supported. Successful people don’t do it alone. They get help. Do you think Oprah got to where she is all by herself? No way. Think about those days when you feel happy and supported. This happens when you can make the shift from a place of stressing about all the stuff you have to get done and not having enough time, to a place of feeling calm, peaceful and relaxed. From this place of calm and feeling supported, it’s a lot easier to give love to others.
Think about the areas where you’re lacking support in your life. I doubt that anyone ever says they’re glad they cleaned their own house on their deathbed. Where can you get 5 hours of your time back each week?
Do you need to find someone to clean your house?
Run your errands?
Help with your kids?
What about laundry? (Before you roll your eyes know that most dry-cleaners do laundry for you quite inexpensively!)
So here’s your challenge:
1. Take inventory of the things you can get off your plate.
2. Either ask someone to help you or hire the help you need.