When we feel an undesired emotion like anxiety or depression, it’s a sign that we are out of alignment with trust. With divine timing. With that deeper knowing that the universe or god or spirit has your back.
When we feel anxiety it’s a sign we don’t trust the future. And when we are feeling down, we are living in the past and not trusting that events are always happening for our highest good.
This topic seems to be coming up a lot lately for my clients and even myself. Last week I had an experience where I was feeling anxious about a situation. And after all the work I’ve done, I still got caught up in it!
I got stuck in my lower level thinking and as a result, I disconnected from my body and truth of who I really am. But here’s what we have to remember: we are not our thoughts. We are not our anxiety. We are a soul that is pure love. Simple as that.
Our thoughts, fears, and anxious feelings are just parts of us that we experience. They are NOT US. When we are in these negative states of mind, we tend to identify with the thoughts or feelings and make them our absolute truth.
When you find yourself caught up in these types of thoughts, it’s important to get out of your head and into your body. Feel into the feeling, the discomfort fully. Let it come to the surface so it can be released. Getting caught up in our thoughts and ignoring our feelings just buries them down only to potentially come up at another time.
So today, I wanted to share with you a few steps to help you get back into your body and connected to yourself:
- Acknowledge the feeling or thoughts you’re having. This might mean journaling about what’s going on for you. Get it all out. The good, bad and the ugly. Journaling is a form of releasing and it’s ok and therapeutic to get raw and vulnerable. If journaling isn’t your thing move on to number 2.
- Breathe. Get comfortable and bring your awareness into your body. Where are you feeling discomfort? Once you identify it, breathe into this part of you. What I mean by this is to bring your mind or awareness to this part of your body and breathe. It’s that simple. Your thoughts will wander and that’s ok and normal. When you catch yourself floating away with a thought, just bring your awareness right back to your discomfort. And aim to stay there for 3 minutes. It can feel like a lifetime when you’re really feeling off, but it’s only 3 minutes. Then, work your way up to 15 or 20 minutes or until the feeling subsides. Feel free to do this in silence or find some relaxing music to play if that feels good to you.
- Always finish by cultivating a loving energy in your heart space. So if you do 3 minutes or 20 minutes, finish by bringing your awareness to your heart and think about something that lights you up. A loved one or maybe a pet. And to the best of your ability, stir up that loving energy for a couple minutes. Then continue on with your day!
When we have the courage to meet our uncomfortable feelings, we bring ourselves back to our own truth. And we can build a beautiful practice of trusting ourselves by allowing ourselves to actually go there and feel, even when it’s tough. In time, we begin to know and trust that even when things seem dark or feel difficult, that our inner core being is always there just waiting for us to come back home.