I believe in you. I believe in everything about you! The “you” that is authentically you. Not this version you think you should be. Not the version that plays small, people pleases and hides to keep from rocking the boat.
I believe in the you that is fierce. Unapologetic. Sets boundaries for yourself based on what you’re available for. Understands that when you put yourself first, you’re better able to show up for others. The you that knows that saying no from an empowered place isn’t selfish.
The truth is that you can still put yourself first and live from a place compassion. In fact when you put yourself first and fill your own cup, you’re so much more available and joyful in being of service to others. When you constantly put others needs before your own, you become resentful, exhausted and overwhelmed.
So often when we think about expressing the parts of us that may be different or we consider going after our innermost dreams and desires, our insecurities come to the surface and we worry about what others will think. We actually start living from other people’s heads. We make decisions based on what we think will be accepted by others. Basically, we choose based on what we think will feel good for other people.
But the problem with living from this place is that you’re not actually living your life. And neither are the people around you.
What if we put the focus back on us? What if we start to get clear on our desires and really go for them. What if our act of living from an authentic place actually allows others to do the same? What if it gives them permission to also be seen and show-up authentically as themselves?
We are all different. And we’re supposed to be different. We each bring something unique to the table and if we mask our uniqueness to fit-in, we’re really depriving the world of our gifts.
In today’s exercise, I’m helping you to do YOU!
- What are you craving right now that you’re not doing because you’re afraid you’ll be judged or will offend someone? What are you not doing because you are worried you’ll fail? It might be expressing a part of you more fully. Or maybe it’s allowing yourself to be seen just as you are. Perhaps taking a stand for yourself in a relationship?
- Now, map out any action steps needed to make this happen and get started.
- Shift your mind-set from worrying about what other people will think and to focusing on who you can help by being bold and living your truth.
- Stop judging other people. I’ve said this before but it’s worth mentioning again. When you’re judging others you’re constantly living from a place where you assume you’re being judged as well. So just stop!
- Talk to someone or journal about what’s coming up while making these changes. All the fears, thoughts and emotions are coming up for a reason, so you don’t want to ignore them. Find a way to process them.
- Get into gratitude that you stepped outside of your comfort zone. Congratulate yourself that you showed up for yourself. YOU DID YOU!