Motivational speaker Jim Rohn said we are measure of the five people we spend the most time with. When it comes to our relationships we are greatly influenced by those around us: what we believe to be possible, our decisions and thought patterns.
I truly believe we are each our own person, and especially in this community where we promote standing in our power and self-confidence. Everything we feel is our choice. How we perceive things is always our decision as well. But, studies show that whether we like it or not, we are influenced by those we are closest to.
Take a look at your life. Are you happy with where you are? What is your general outlook on life?
Now take a look at the people you spend the most time around. How do they fit into how you desire to show up in the world? Are they positive? Do they lift up the people around them and especially you? Or, do they complain, gossip and try to keep people down?
For me, it’s less about being influenced by what people think. (Although I still have to check myself sometimes by what my Mom or best friends are saying. I’m not totally immune!) But it’s more about people bringing my mood or energy down. I feel things very deeply and when someone is negative and miserable, it’s less about not jiving with what they are saying, and more about how I feel around them.
It makes a difference who we choose to surround ourselves with. It’s not luck, it’s a choice. We get to choose who we have relationships with. An exception may be family, although I would argue we can set boundaries and choose how much time we spend with our family – but that’s a whole other post!
Ask yourself the following questions:
Who are you spending your time with?
What’s their energy like? How does it feel to be around them?
What do they talk about? Is it in line with how you desire to show up in the world?
Are they lifting you up or trying to keep you stuck?